The Parenting puzzle

As a parent myself, I find that I ask myself the same question over and over again, "Am I good enough? Could I have done things differently? but the truth of the matter is no one can ever get it right all the time, because I do believe that parenting is an ongoing process that has no ceiling, and I also honestly believe that with practice and a room for error is the only way that you can truly feel comfortable about your parenting style. We are all individuals and we also have different values and beliefs, depending on how you choose to raise your children I do believe it should be a style that suites both you and the family. I believe that whichever parenting style you choose, should not only be there to suite your needs but for the benefit of the family, because if it could have a detrimental effect on the family if you appear to be dictatorial or selfish. As a parent I also do believe that it is not wrong to praise a child every now and then, guiding a child on a right path is better than criticising, also taking sides between children could cause resentment feeling between siblings and indeed the family.

Children are very good at picking up on things than we parents realize, if they sense that you are always criticising they tend to become defiant and sometimes frustrated, but if you guide them, even if they have done something wrong they are more likely to listen and co-operate with you. So my thought for the day is "Guide instead of Criticising, Listen instead of judging, share ideas instead of dictating, because by doing that they feel valued and it encourages co-operation.