Compassion, patience and empathy.

Just today I was thinking about the late Michael Jackson......... God bless his soul, I grew up at the time when Michael Jackson was on the rise, I even named my child after his family name....... With all the controversy that followed him and his family for so long, This would have made anyone to question their royalty towards him as an artist. But as I got to listen to his old album today, I got to realize that Michael Jackson was truly a very special individual whose imagination travelled further than his time, which brings me to the point where I agree with the term that "Great people do no live long in this world". I do believe that in the years to come people would look back and realize just how special this man was, and how his music had touched many people, and that it had more sense than just sounds of music. Look at the songs like ... heal the world.... when one listens to this songs you get to understand what exactly he meant..... today we are surrounded by paedophiles, murderers, bullies and the list goes on, but no one bothers to see that, because we are all too obsessed in finding the bigger picture..... how do you find the bigger picture without finding the small one first???????????? and how do you find a solution without finding the root of the problem???????????. Can someone please respond to this and let me have their thoughts??? Thanks...

Love

Today, I would like to share with you the word "LOVE", Love is of different definitions depending on how and where it is applied. How does one realize that they are in Love? better yet, how does the other party realize how deeply you are in love with them????, As I said before, there are different types of love, there is a parent love, a sibling love and of course the romantic love..... what I am talking about today is of course the romantic love, I have no doubt about the love I have for my children, siblings and of course family.
But the one that I am a little puzzled by, is of course the romantic love, now although I am a mother of two, I must admit that I am a little rusty when it comes to relationships, I feel I put too much into it..... and do not fully grasp the true interpretation of LOVE, or could it be that may be it is because I really have not had that much experience in the field?? or is it because I am a little naive and trying too hard to please the other party???? either way I really need some guidance on how to handle the feelings that one experiences when they fall head over heels towards the significant other. My friends have asked me about this question, but quiet frankly I do not have a definitive answer to give them, so please your contribution on this issue would be very much appreciated. Thank you and bless you.

NYERERE DAY EVENT

On this photo, our honourable the Tanzania Ambassador to the United Kingdom addressing the congregation at Edinburgh University on Nyerere Day, Commemorating 10th anniversary since he passed away.

The Parenting puzzle

As a parent myself, I find that I ask myself the same question over and over again, "Am I good enough? Could I have done things differently? but the truth of the matter is no one can ever get it right all the time, because I do believe that parenting is an ongoing process that has no ceiling, and I also honestly believe that with practice and a room for error is the only way that you can truly feel comfortable about your parenting style. We are all individuals and we also have different values and beliefs, depending on how you choose to raise your children I do believe it should be a style that suites both you and the family. I believe that whichever parenting style you choose, should not only be there to suite your needs but for the benefit of the family, because if it could have a detrimental effect on the family if you appear to be dictatorial or selfish. As a parent I also do believe that it is not wrong to praise a child every now and then, guiding a child on a right path is better than criticising, also taking sides between children could cause resentment feeling between siblings and indeed the family.

Children are very good at picking up on things than we parents realize, if they sense that you are always criticising they tend to become defiant and sometimes frustrated, but if you guide them, even if they have done something wrong they are more likely to listen and co-operate with you. So my thought for the day is "Guide instead of Criticising, Listen instead of judging, share ideas instead of dictating, because by doing that they feel valued and it encourages co-operation.

A time to let go, the question of "FAITH"

How do you know when it's time to let go? most of the time one runs out of answers and prays for a miracle. We all need angels to guide us through life, in good and bad times, so for today my prayer is for the good Lord to guide and give me the courage to get on with life with resilience and optimism. I pray that my FAITH in GOD remains intact because I know that GOD has a purpose for me in the world, and that my attitude towards life reflect and affects all those close to me and to each and every individual I come across through this journey of life.

Family Matters

Today I woke up thinking about "FAMILY" and the real meaning of it, I have always been a firm believer of being close to your family, but my main question here is; what really makes a family? can someone please explain this to me? because I am a little unsure of the concept, thougout my life I have found myself bonding with people who were not my family, and they have in a sense helped me along the way and made me appreciate life, these very same people I was proud to call family, and we have developed the bond that I can never call them nothing less of a family. So my question today is for someone to please elaborate the meaning of the word "FAMILY". Thank you for taking time out to discuss this with me.

A day out with my daughter

Today I had a wonderful day out with my daughter, she was very excited about her new account that I opened for her, one that she can use the debit card with, she had a million dollar smile on her face.......... it made me want to cry, I felt so happy and suddenly I remembered my own childhood, and I just wished for a minute that I could have had someone to bond with me as much as I bond with my child. After that we went shopping, and she was all over the stores going crazy with all the craziest items.......... I just laughed quietly........ I felt so blessed and happy, my feet were killing me.... but what the heck.... it's one day that i would not trade for anything under this face of the hearth and that is for sure. We came back home and threw our bags on the sofa, we could not even wait to go upstairs in our room, but tried our items right there in the living room!!!!!!!!!!! weird I say, but I just said to myself, soon she will be a grown up and I might not be able to have these moments again. I believe in cherishing the moments, because once the day is gone, it can not be gained back, so I am going to take each day as it comes and make the most of it for tomorrow is another day!!!!!!!. So guys please make the most of each and every moment that you get to spend with your loved ones. Keep smilling and the world will smile back at you.

How to find inner peace

Through my life experiences I have had to overcome a lot of pain. But the only thing that kept me going was to be thankful that I had lived to see another day and was very hopeful that the next day would be better than the previous one.